“All of what you are going through has a purpose. It will teach you empathy so that you can relate and help others someday.”
Mary Jo Nocero
Which part of you are you going to believe? Will you believe the proverbial “devil” or the “angel” that sits on your shoulder? The devil is your ego afraid and in fear of the unknown. The angel is your soul already free from the illusions of the world. The devil is only a caricature of that part of your persona that yearns for love. You must acknowledge that part of you and embrace it so that the fear of being wounded again does not overtake you. The angel is only a caricature of that part of your persona that knows that you are love. You must acknowledge that part of you so that you start to believe that you are divine. Both parts serve a higher purpose. Both sides offer you perspective as your life unfolds. Both sides allow you to awaken and transform as you become more aware and liberated. Both sides are important and must be in balance in the reality that we are human and at the same time divine. Be the observer where before you may have been a judge. Step back and experience the moments where the ego wants to take over and dominate. Allow the soul, the divine you, to give it love and care. Be the observer to your past experiences. You are the person you are now because of what you have gone through. Believe the duality of your life holds profound meaning and embrace both! Ultimately you will come to realize that the compassion gained from loving all of you will make a difference in your life and in the lives of others someday. And to that I say Amen! It is all so worth it!
“Kind words do not cost much. Yet they accomplish much.”
All of us use language in our daily lives. Whether written or spoken, the words we use form the basis of the relationships we develop as we move through our journey here. Whether we think about their impact or not, the words that come out of our mouths can either build bridges to enable better communication or tear them down creating obstacles to positive growth. Words can be used as a magical elixir that heals or can be used as a poisonous concoction that could harm beyond belief. And, it is hard to deny the power of uplifting and empowering words that spark profound and brilliant changes for the audience that receives them willingly. We all have witnessed throughout history examples of words used well in the form of inspired speeches that have long remained great examples for generations. We all have been taught proverbs over time that advise to remember kindness when choosing the way we express ourselves to another. We all have been offered opportunities throughout our lifetimes to be mindful as we reach out to connect with our world. Sometimes we take advantage of using kindness in our connections and sometimes we do not. However, if we pause to think of the positive power of our words before we speak, we can set out to share our truth with others in such a way that better the world around us. Then, we are more aware that what we share can be positive force that can create an environment for the conversation to continue rather than cut it off completely. When we take a deep breath and use our words to build bridges, then the space that was there previously can finally be tied together to allow the field of potential to take over to create amazing things. Today, let your words convey hope for a better world, let your words grab on to faith in all things good, let your words share the tremendous love waiting for all of us, and most of all let your words allow for forgiveness when we err. And choose well to create for yourself and others a brilliant place bolstered by kindness where we all can thrive. It costs nothing to do so!
An excerpt from the metta meditation (metta means loving kindness)
May you be happy.
May you be safe and protected from harm.
May you be healthy and strong.
May you live with ease.
“I’ve never tried to block out the memories of the past, even though some are painful. I don’t understand people who hide from their past. Everything you live through helps to make you the person you are now.”
Instead of yearning to relive our yesterdays, be grateful for the tools that we have learned to help us embrace the potential that lies in our present. Instead of blocking painful memories of the past, appreciate the gifts of compassion that we have gathered from those moments that will help us to approach life from a different perspective. Instead of mourning the times where we felt safe and secure, give thanks for the courage that we have mustered to help move us forward to fulfill our dreams.
Our fond memories remind us of the lives of loved ones that have touched us deeply and left their distinct mark on our hearts. Our challenging memories remind us that we can get through even the most difficult circumstances. In both aspects, our memories are there to empower and liberate us to experience an amazing life, nothing less. So when we are grateful for the profound highs as well as for the difficult lows, we get to choose to empower ourselves with the knowledge that the lesson learned from each makes us who we are. By embracing each and every experience in life and not getting stuck in the negative, we are sure to become stronger and more liberated to enjoy the present where we will have many more opportunities to meet more amazing people and encounter a world of such amazing things. We have the choice to live a life bolstered by the memories of our past or not. When we build upon the positive frequencies of our memories, we decide to believe in a strong foundation built upon positive building blocks that will support our lives for years to come. And upon that place of strength, we can empower our present with amazing memories of times gone by and people who have blessed us with their presence. If we embrace the joy, our reward will be an even greater love for life along the way. As Dr. Seuss so eloquently stated, then we will choose to “smile because it happened.”
“I am beginning to learn that it is the sweet, simple things of life which are the real ones after all.”
~Laura Ingalls Wilder
Happy Easter! A time of great transformation. A time where you get to celebrate the truest lesson of love, one person’s sacrificing for another. Where you are reminded that if one person’s life can make a difference to the world, so can yours! You are both the student and the teacher of life. When you are present to the moment, you get to witness the simple things that make the experience of living worthwhile. Then you must teach what you know to pass the lesson on.
Each event in life offers an opportunity to learn, heal, grow, transform and rejoice. You must experience each one to gather the pieces of your mystery to create the masterpiece that is your life. Embrace those moments and allow the journey to unfold by getting into your flow that will Allow your life to be a positive example for all to see. You are a great student of love, so be sure to teach it as well.
What will your lesson plan be? Will you show your humanity by sharing your imperfections and vulnerabilities? Will you share your great love for life and others by reaching out to find the connections? Will you take the leap of faith that will comfort you in the notion that there are no coincidences in life? The answer can only be simply yes. For the universe is waiting for you to step into your dreams and show the world, transforming ever so beautifully at that. That reality is so simple and sweet.Take a deep breath now and rest in God as you allow and surrender to that love in it’s truest form. And as spring overtakes you, allow yourself to come alive right before our eyes.
“Argue for your limitations, and sure enough, they’re yours.”
Face your fears! I had the most tumultuous week last week! I was beating myself up emotionally for not being further along my path in fulfilling my dreams. I was frustrated because I was looking too close at the end result and failed to see how far I have come. On top of that, I lost a dear friend to breast cancer, the same thing that took my Mom’s life nearly three years ago this Saturday. ( anniversaries are so tough!) Here I was stuck in the feeling that I was stuck- blocked- not moving forward into a freer, happier time. I was having a grad time sleeping and I was so run down that I got a terrible cold and had to call in sick for work.
When u returned to work the next day, I was greeted by anger. One of my closest colleagues accused me of being selfish and lying to get out of fulfilling my work obligations and not caring about others. He said that I should have come into work even if I was sick (needless to say my boss was incredibly kind and caring and understanding) All I could focus on was the mean spiritedness of my friend. And in retrospect, it was clear that my own punishing and sabotaging behavior led to real physical symptoms and attracted behavior from others who treated me the same way I was treating myself. After a good cry and a much needed emotional release, I got some perspective.
While I was allowing this drama and fear of the unknown overtake me, I spoke to another very close person in my life who taught me a little lesson about perspective by practicing patience. Seeing the behavior for what it is and not engaging. Instead look for the love and support and build on that foundation.
Then I realized something else, I was pulling back from life. Fear started to permeate me and I was retreating rather than facing it.
Engage in life, don’t run from it. How appropriate that I would find myself at an amusement theme park on Saturday to celebrate the birthday of my dad.
So many great rollercoasters to ride. As a child, I was always fearful of what might happen if I got in and took the plunge. I always took the warnings posted to protect the park from liability very seriously. Then, I just grabbed ever last ounce of courage I had and rode my first rollercoaster and can remember how much I loved the thrill and surrender of being a part of the moment and just going with it. Seeing the loops and falls as a bystander was a much different experience than being a part of the ride. Had I always watched from the sidelines then I would never know that experience of freedom by engaging.
Such is life. There are many fears that could hold us back. There are many perceived warnings posted on the path. But there are no guaranteed protections if you don’t engage as well. You can be a bystander watching from the sidelines or you can get on the ride and experience life for yourself. The choice is yours. I found myself this last weekend passing on the rides, making excuses not to go. Then at the final hour, my nephew made a huge stink about wanting to go on one of the best rollercoaster in the park. After standing on the sidelines all day, I finally said I would go with him. My own son declined most probably dealing with his own fears of the unknown- he is still young. But with my heart pounding as I saw the warnings posted on again, I proceeded. As they locked me in the seat, I told myself “meg face your fears, don’t let them control you! You don’t want to be in a self imposed cage of your own making”. Then I just surrendered and boy what a ride! You are launched forward with such an unexpected thrust that your mind does not have a chance to process the possibility of doom and it is all fun from there. I laughed, screamed and watched in front of me with my eyes wide opened grateful once again for the necessary emotional release.
So what did I learn? Nearly three years ago, my mom died. The fear of death threatened to stop me from living. I have come a long way in those three years, pushing past that fear to step into the enjoyment of life once again without her. But, occasionally when I get stuck in that self sabotaging cycle again, why not get on a rollercoaster to help face my fears. Why not lose control to regain a sense of self and redefining purpose. It was just a ride, but a ride with quit a profound lesson for my life. Do I want to be a bystander and miss out on so much, or do I engage and face my fears along the wAy!!!! How I felt during the ride and when I got off, will have me choosing the latter. At least until I need another reminder again! And in that regard, I am setting an example for my children to do the same. Perhaps my son will see my courage and follow suit. Until then, a little thrill seeking perhaps is just what I needed to get unstuck and move forward disregarding the nastiness that I may experience courtesy of myself and others only to embrace all the wonder that lies before me! Staying true to myself, knowing that I am doing my best, and determined to have as much fun as I can with harm to none- life is too short and I am going to do my best to have no regrets- face my fears knowing that with a strong faith in the divine I am going to be ok-this would be sure to make my mother proud -amen and alleluia!
Compassion, not judgment!
“I got a fortune cookie that said, ‘To remember is to understand.’ I have never forgotten it. A good judge remembers what it was like to be a lawyer. A good editor remembers being a writer. A good parent remembers what it was like to be a child.”
Author and Journalist
Steven Covey has said seek first to understand, then to be understood. Very sage advice in life. Each person comes to a situation with a different perspective that is at times uniquely different than your own. Each person has experiences that have shaped them. Each person has undergone their own kind of hardship or achievement that has led to growth and change. So before you judge another based upon your own life lessons, bring compassion to the table and leave criticism behind. You have your own mountains to climb, your have your own valleys to get through. You have your own blessings to cherish and you have your own life to live. You may be exceedingly fortunate or you may have had more than your share of difficulties. There is no such thing as perfection when determining whether you or others have experienced a life well lived. You and I are all doing our best with the foundations that you and I have built our lives on. Yours is not to judge. Rather, yours is to ensure that in every applicable instance, you carry a heart filled with compassion and empathy as a cornerstone for the way you move forward. You are born into this world to learn and grow. As you grow, you gain wisdom knowing that with love and forgiveness as the primary tools in your arsenal, you can have a positive impact on another’s life. Take a moment to understand this before you act. You have traveled a journey with the intention to be the best person you can be. While you may slip and fall along the way, when you are held in the arms of compassionate connections, your healing as well as the world’s is advanced further. So, in your interactions today, will you take a moment to be a light of compassion in a world so desperate for it by seeking to understand rather than judging yourself or others? Remember that each of us started out as a beautiful little child filled with endless possibilities. Will you move forward today with that in mind and reach out in love?
“This is a tale I pray the divine Muse to unfold to us. Begin it, goddess, at whatever point you will.” The Odyssey of Homer
You are the hero of your own life! Declare it. You too must acknowledge this important role as your story unfolds. Why must you shy away from the power and transformation that comes with this distinction in your life? Own it. The path is yours to discover through your own eyes and distinct perspective. Have you played this part and been on this journey your whole life, renewing the cycle over and over again as you go? Yes, yes, yes. Know it. You are living your own mythical adventure of wonder, magic and intrigue. Are you truly here with purpose for great things? Believe it. If only your path touches one other than you with the goodness you behold then you are making a difference. Can you be profoundly aware of your own power to heal? Begin it. Yes you can heal yourself as well as others. Do not delay. Go forth fellow companions and begin it at whatever point you will. The journey is yours ultimately, you have been on the path of the hero all along!
“I’m trying to free your mind, but I can only show you the door. You’re the one who has to walk through it.” Morpheus from The Matrix
Why must we punish ourselves with sabotaging thoughts? What will it take for us to free ourselves from our own self-imposed mental slavery? Can it all be a matter of perspective? Can we use our imagination to free our minds and connect with the love in our hearts to liberate our lives? Why not take a chance and try it. Stand up straight and imagine releasing the weight of the world off your shoulders. Feel lighter and give love. Open your eyes and see the many doors just waiting to be opened to offer us a different path on the journey. Appreciate the possibilities present for us all and the opportunity to experience love. Look around and see other individuals as co-creators with you. Feel lifted and receive love. The mind aligned with optimism is a powerful tool. A heart filled with love is even more commanding. When the mind is coupled with the heart, this combination is something to behold. Obstacles fade away. Negativity subsides. And, possibilities spring anew. We can make the choice to free our minds to believe in the potential that is known in our hearts. The door is right in front of us to do so. It can only be shown to us, it will ultimately be our decision to walk through. So what is is going to be? If we free our minds to believe in the possibility of wonderful things to come, the rest will follow as our heart begins to sing once again. There is gentle salvation when we allow our minds to be free from the chains that bind as we connect to the love that awaits us.
“I believe we’re all put on this planet for a purpose, and we all have a different purpose… When you connect with that love and that compassion, that’s when everything unfolds.”
We are surrounded by so many different beautiful faces and souls. Each time we meet each other, we get a chance to experience the magic and miracles of our connections. When love and compassion are introduced into these encounters, the world opens up to us in an amazing way. The journey will be kinder, the experiences will be more joyous and the gifts we receive will be more meaningful. We are here with so many others wonderful ones wandering through the hills and valleys of life. We don’t have to go it alone. We have each other if we are vulnerable enough to reach out and grab the hand to the left and to the right. We need each other. We stand together as beacons of light in an otherwise dark world. When we connect with love and compassion, there is an incredible power we share between us that can spread blessings of grace throughout. We all have a purpose in this world. And, the link that connects us all is the realization that if we come together in love and compassion, what will unfold has the potential to explode a chain reaction that will be remarkable to witness. So stop, connect with love and compassion and enjoy the ride!
“I saw a turtle in the clouds, it said to take things slow. For if you do not stop in life, its meaning you will not know. Be consciously slow and patiently aware with each one and everything. You will then begin to understand what is truly meant by Spring. Life is not meant to be hurried or to go go go, make an effort to be still in love, To stop and sit and look around and most importantly take things slow.”
“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” Henry David Thoreau (1817 – 1862)
As Spring is upon us and we all embark on the season of graduating from one point in life to enter a new phase, it is important to take a moment and truly reflect with conscious awareness what you want that new phase to look like. If you take a few moments out of your day and really focus on what you intend to birth in your life, then these moments could prove to be invaluable to you. If you want to go to where you really want, you need to know what that place looks likes to you and feels like to you. To experience it in the now, you need to have already lived it in your mind. There is tremendous power in conscious creating. So Ask yourself, up until now, what is it that you have prepared yourself for? How will you come to know what up until this point has only existed in your thoughts and dreams? Take this moment to surrender your past story and confidently embrace the present moment and all that it has to offer. As Thoreau points out, only then when you are confident in all of your possibilities will you then transform the ordinary to become extraordinary. Only then will you meet with a success that can only be yours to discover. Why wait when the time for rebirth is now. Spring is awakening and so should you! As the seasons transform, the snow thaws, and the flowers start to bloom, follow this path and take the time to recover what makes you feel alive. There is no time like the present to follow your road back to living in joy again!